You look into his eyes. You immediately fall in love. OMG such cuteness! Big puppy dog eyes, totally huggable body…and the smell- oh yes- don’t you love that smell?
You take him home and he instantly curls up beside you, on top of you, licking you, loving you –so wonderfully excited. And that is enough. That is ALL you need. That love, the excitement of being around you; the way he wags his tail, follows you around awaiting your caress, your affection and the odd treat. Doesn't matter how you look. He loves your bad breath and smelly feet. He only feels your heart.
That’s it! A relationship made in heaven. The expectations are physical and few- slobbery kisses and fresh air. You’re both so happy. It’s simple and uncomplicated. You take him home and you are committed to each other. He protects you and you keep him warm. He is adorable and cuddly and you feel safe and happy. And you live out your lives together. You just both decided upon each other.
This is how relationships should be! We see them. We adore their puppy dog eyes. We take them home and they are so happy. We make that commitment- right then and there- to be loyal and to take care of each other. Sometimes she cries. He dries her tears. Sometimes he has a lot of energy- she takes him where he can play his sports. They just commit. They need each other. So simple.
But we humans, we really have to complicate the whole process. So many games…you can’t show how you feel, they can’t show how they feel. If you take them home and sleep with them the first night…well apparently game over because they need some sort of chase. But crap- all we want is to jump their bones and keep that warm body beside us forever. We would cook for them. Love them up so good. But they need their space and then we need our space. And then they are feeling insecure and then we are feeling insecure. We need each other to prove our love. God- why does it have to be so complicated?
Just the other day I heard from an old friend of mine- nicest woman you could ever meet- adored her husband of 28 years. He walked away from her and towards a younger woman. I really just don’t get it.
We try to like someone because they are nice and kind and all of that is good but I say- at the end of the day- love like a dog.
Find that guy or girl-the one who’s eyes you love or whose tail only wags for you. Find the one who wants to protect you and who’s smell you love. Find the one who is happy with a lot of affection and some food; the one you want to curl up with each night- go for long walks with. It really needs to be this simple.
Love like a dog- keep your expectations at bay. There may be some training involved- food always works well. Yes potty training- you know- put the lid down, anger management…keep them on a tight lead- they like that. No yelling- just treats, gentle reminders and strong boundaries and lots of affection. Let them protect you and be loyal to one another. And always…lots of loving and licking.
I say love like a dog!
Life doesn't need to be so RRRRuff!!